Creating New Family Traditions After A Loss

By: Louis Bruno
Tuesday, June 23, 2020

The loss of a loved one can destabilize a family’s structure and a person’s support system. Losing parents, grandparents, siblings, or even children can be traumatic, even when you expect it. At Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home, we believe that creating new rituals and family traditions can help everyone heal. Creating new rituals is especially for young children who have lost someone important. Here’s a look at what you can do:

1. Find Something Unique

Creating new traditions is all about starting something different and unique. The traditions you had followed a loved one can cause more grief after their demise. Choose an activity that strengthens your bonds with existing family members and fills the gap. For example, you can take on a drive to a nearby pier every weekend as a new tradition. That will give the children some stability and help deepen your bond with them.

2. Remember The Deceased

You don’t need to ignore or forget the person you lost. Pick a new tradition that honors your loved one in some way but is still a pleasant experience for everyone involved. For example, did your lost family member love cake? You can bake different kinds of cakes on their birthday as a way to celebrate the life they lived.

3. Don’t Force Yourself

Adding new traditions is a way of healing and accepting the loss. If your new tradition does more harm than good, feel free to change it. There’s no need to follow a set path because everyone has a different way to grieve. For example, if baking birthday cakes on a deceased loved one’s birthday causes your children distress, find an alternative way to celebrate.

If you want to know more about grief, memorial services, or cremation, don't hesitate to contact us at Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home. We’ll be happy to answer your questions.

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