Techniques for Handling Challenging Anniversaries after a Death

By: Louis Bruno
Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Anniversaries are important milestones in a person’s life. For example, a marriage anniversary is a special day to celebrate a lifelong commitment. Such events ensure you don’t take life for granted and cherish every year. These celebrations can turn into sorrow after the death of a loved one. They become stark reminders of what you have lost. At Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home, we recommend the techniques mentioned below:

1. Take a break

Anniversaries can be painful if you’re in familiar surroundings so taking a break is a great way to get away from it for a while. Travel to a different destination with friends or take a road trip. The new experiences and curiosity will overshadow the grief and help you get through the day.

2. Celebrate it differently

You can get through anniversaries without removing them from your life. Instead of celebrating it in the same manner as you did before, consider doing something new and interesting. Spend time with family, make it a game night, go out for drinks with friends, etc. New traditions will help you recover from your grief and make future celebrations less painful.

3. Take up a meaningful activity in the decedent’s name

Some people volunteer for a charity, others tick off items from the decedent’s bucket list. These meaningful activities can help if you want to remain connected with the deceased loved one but want to disassociate from the pain.

Different people have different ways to cope with anniversaries after death so you won’t get it right the first time. But you will find something that offers comfort and solace.

If you want to know more about grief, memorial services or cremation, don’t hesitate to contact us at Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home. We’ll be happy to answer your questions.

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