How to Cope with the Holidays Without a Loved One

By: Louis Bruno
Friday, December 8, 2017

As the holidays are meant to be celebrated with family and friends, they can serve as a stark reminder of a recent loss of a loved one. These family gatherings and holiday parties can quickly change from happy occasions to painful obligations during the grieving process. Here are some tips and recommendations that can help you through this period:

1. Don’t attend parties and gatherings if you’re not in the right mindset

If your grief is too raw and fresh, attending these events can be painful. Take a break and engage in other activities that will help you process the grief instead of making it more painful. Watch a play, take a long drive and explore the winter landscape, volunteer for a charity, etc. These activities will keep the mind engaged in a healthy manner and help you process the grief at your own pace.

2. Create new traditions

Create new traditions that can help you cope with the loss and move forward. For example, you can visit the local orphanage or children’s hospital and make some donation in the decedent's name. New rituals and traditions can help you keep the loved one in memory in a positive manner as you focus on good memories and healing instead of loss.

3. Ask for help

If the grief makes the holiday season unbearable, ask for help and take a break away from the holiday environment. For example, you can go on an extended road trip with a friend to get away from the constant holiday cheer. There’s no shame in asking for help or visiting a psychologist to assist you with the grieving process.  

If you want to know more about the grieving process, don’t hesitate to contact us at Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home. We’ll be happy to answer your questions.

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:
Please enter the numbers and letters you see in the image. Note that the case of the letters entered matters.

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

How To Choose The Right Celebrant Or Clergy Member For Your Loved One's Service

When you are dealing with the loss of a loved one, you still have the responsibility of organizing the funeral service. It is essential to find the right celebrant or clergy to help you design a ce...

Etiquette for Social Media Condolences

Social media has taken over our lives in a significant way. Many people have social media accounts on various platforms and are very active on them. It isnt uncommon for people to communicate regul...

Should Your Child Attend the Funeral?

All parents want to protect their children from the harsh realities of life like death and funerals. Many hesitate to discuss such topics with their kids, worrying that they might scare them. Howe...

Grief - What Is Normal?

People who are grieving the death of a loved one suffer often wonder whether their grief is normal. Grief is a normal response after the death of a family member or close friend and healing too, is...

What's the Point of a Funeral?

While the disposition is often thought of as addressing the needs of the deceased, a funeral or memorial service is typically held to address the needs of the living. The death of someone we love l...

Coping With An Unexpected Death

The unexpected death of a loved one can be a blow to the family as well as close friends. The disbelief that they feel transitions to feelings of remorse, frustration, anger, regret etc. All of the...

The Importance Of Personalizing A Funeral or Memorial Service

Conducting a funeral service gives you the chance to memorialize your loved one in a unique way. This is the time when family and friends can express their feelings and the grief they feel. But whe...

Managing Grief During the Festive Season

Happy families, delicious food and lovely hand-wrapped presents make holidays joyous and wonderful but not necessarily. If you have lost a loved one, it can be an incredibly challenging to pass thi...

4 Things to Think About Before Organizing a Funeral

At some point in life, people may be asked to take on the responsibility of organizing the funeral of a loved one. This is a task they need to accept though very unpleasant and least prepared for. ...

Choosing a Casket

When a loved one passes away, selecting a casket is a priority just like many other funeral arrangements. As you visit funeral homes or search online, you realize that the range of options is wide....