The Importance of an End of Life Conversation with your Loved One

By: Louis Bruno
Wednesday, November 15, 2017

It’s not easy to discuss end-of-life events with a loved one. Most people don’t want to contemplate the thought of a loved one passing away and leaving them behind forever. Most experts believe that this conversation can help all members of the family, including the elderly or ill individuals.

Why should you have a end of life conversation?

The last few months or weeks of a person’s life should be peaceful and as happy as they can be. Tiptoeing around the eventual demise isn’t going to help anyone, which is why it’s a good idea to get this discussion out of the way. Here are some benefits for you to consider:

  • You know the individual’s wishes and requests before the time comes so there’s no need for speculation.
  • Such discussions can help the elderly or ill person reconcile with the inevitable and focus on living a good life for the rest of their days.
  • This discussion can help resolve personal conflicts and bring estranged family members together.

What details should you discuss?

  • Do you want cremation or a burial?
  • Do you want to hold a visitation, wake, or memorial service?
  • Where do you want to be buried?
  • Any special requests like a donation to charity, special music or decorations, etc.
  • Financial and personal assets and possessions.

How does it help?

This process gives everyone in the family some peace of mind. There are no discussions regarding the funeral service process so there are no conflicts after the loved one has passed away. Everything is arranged in advance so the family left behind can focus on the grief instead of worrying about making the arrangements. Making arrangements in advance also ensures the services after the death happens according to the decedent’s wishes and requests.

If you want to know more about end-of-life conversations and funeral services, don’t hesitate to contact us at Charles J. O’Shea Funeral Home. We’ll be happy to answer your questions. 

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