Funerals can be tricky to navigate and it can be hard to know how to act, how to give the most comfort to the grieving family or what you are supposed to do! Everyone grieves differently and in their own way but there are some etiquette tips that can help make it less stressful so that you can understand what NOT to do (which is a great starting place.)

1. Attire – Some families want black, others want anything but black so checking with the family can be a safe bet. There are some standardized rules for attire such as; conservative with minimal cleavage or legs showing. For men, proper shoes, shirts with a tie and no informal t-shirts. Funerals are generally considered a formal affair, unless told otherwise, so use that dress code as a guide.
    
2. Kids – Unless you are immediate family, funerals are generally reserved for adults or older children if it’s appropriate. The wake will generally allow children (although it can always be safer to ask) but try to keep babies, toddlers and those who can’t appreciate the sober occasion at home.
    
3. Sentiments – It can be hard to know what is or isn’t appropriate to say to the deceased and their family but generally, speaking from the heart is what is best. However, the one tip to consider is not to AVOID the family, everyone is having a difficult time and avoidance just makes things more awkward and can be considered rude or upsetting.
    
4. Respect Religion – Sometimes the deceased may be an atheist or of a different religion than you practice. You aren’t expected to conform to this religion and do something you aren’t comfortable with but you should always be respectful of their process and celebration, bowing your head when necessary and listening quietly during prayers etc.
    
5. Flowers – You are welcome to send flowers if you want to that can be delivered to the deceased family at home or to the funeral home to be displayed at the funeral and the florist will help you make an appropriate choice. However, if the family has requested donations instead then please respect this.

Hopefully this helps you avoid making any faux pas at your next funeral but if you need to ask a specific question or are looking for advice, feel free to visit our website or talk to a member of staff who will be able to assist you.